Every day, we leave an imprint on those around us. Whether uplifting or harmful, our influence is undeniable, intentional or not. Great leaders recognize this and deliberately shape their actions, attitudes, and behaviors to inspire others.
What they don’t do is rely solely on words. True leadership isn’t about telling people what to do — it’s about living as the example others can follow.
I learned this the hard way in my early twenties. Back then, I believed leadership came with titles and promotions. Eager to climb the ladder, I sought advice from my chief, who gave me a figurative checklist of “do more” tasks: work harder, longer, and beyond the hours I was paid for. His formula for leadership boiled down to sacrificing more of myself for the job.
I pondered his advice, but as I studied leadership, I realized the flaw: his guidance wasn’t rooted in who he was. My chief wasn’t modeling the behavior he prescribed. He delegated effortlessly but seldom worked beyond the bare minimum. He wasn’t building others up—he wasn’t even building himself.
That’s when I discovered a truth: You can’t lead others to become someone you’re not.
Leadership Is About Who You Are, Not What You Do
Many approach leadership like a to-do list, measuring success by achievements or effort. But leadership isn’t about checking boxes — it’s about being the kind of person others want to emulate. It’s rooted in character, integrity, and the ability to build relationships. Actions flow naturally from who you are, not the other way around.
Leaders Build, Not Tear Down
We live in a world where criticism overshadows encouragement. True leaders break that cycle. They seek out the unique gifts in others and use those strengths to lift them up. Leadership thrives on unity, positivity, and the ability to see potential where others see problems.
Awareness Is Essential
Great leaders see themselves — and others — clearly. They acknowledge their blind spots, work to improve, and stay attuned to the needs of those they serve. They don’t assume their workplace or team is perfect; they seek feedback, identify problems, and address them before they escalate.
Leadership Starts With You
Looking back, I realized my chief’s advice missed the mark because he wasn’t embodying leadership. Leadership isn’t about telling others how to grow — it’s about showing them through your own example.
Effective leaders build trust, pour value into others, and lead with humility and grace. They understand the power of encouragement over criticism and strive to improve themselves while helping others thrive.
When you embrace this kind of leadership, you not only elevate those around you — you elevate yourself.
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