Do You Really Want The Truth?

Years ago, I worked for an organization led by an authoritarian, egotistical, and vengeful leader. This individual only promoted those who rubber-stamped every idea—no matter how impractical. Occasionally, they would ask for input, but the only acceptable response was applause. If anyone dared to question feasibility, the consequences were swift: demotion, isolation, or the ultimatum to either fall in line or resign. Once you were in the proverbial doghouse, you never regained favor.

The culture was toxic. People complied silently, but no one respected this leader. Conversations with former colleagues confirmed what we all learned: how not to lead, and how to destroy an organization from the inside out.

But here’s the uncomfortable truth: that leader isn’t alone. Many of us—yes, even well-intentioned leaders—struggle to accept input that contradicts what we want to hear. Across countless organizations, psychological safety is a slogan, not a reality. Leaders claim to value opinions, but do they really want honesty? Or just pleasantries and fake support?

The irony is that truth-telling, though uncomfortable, is the foundation of trust. Difficult conversations strengthen relationships, improve understanding, and create respect. When leaders embrace truth—even when it stings—they unlock benefits that far outweigh the discomfort:

• A healthier, more productive culture where candor is rewarded, not punished.

• Greater team satisfaction because voices matter.

• Reduced organizational risk—issues are addressed before they explode.

• Improved loyalty and retention, as employees feel safe and valued.

• Stronger relationships built on mutual respect, not fear.

• Better problem-solving, because real challenges aren’t hidden under layers of politeness.

  
  

Here’s the paradox: leaders who demand agreement often think they’re protecting their vision. In reality, they’re sabotaging it. Progress thrives on dissent, dialogue, and debate—not blind compliance.

So, ask yourself: Do you really want the truth? If the answer is yes, prove it. Create spaces where honesty isn’t punished but celebrated. Invite challenge. Reward candor. Because the moment your team stops telling you the truth is the moment your leadership begins to fail.

Dr. Neal McIntyre, DPA